I hosted a Girls Game Night this past Friday night and my girlfriends wanted to me tell them what was happening with the website and the blog. They were all so excited for me and it felt good to have the support. But one of my besties said that she wanted to read things of more substance on my blog. She reminded me that my initial impetus for starting the site was to really open a dialogue among women of all sizes to talk about what the media has done to screw with our heads when it comes to body image. I'm so grateful for her honesty, and so this blog is dedicated to my pal C.
There were women of all shapes and sizes at the party, including a plus size model. One of the questions that came up was whether or not the term "plus size" is outdated. As a w
oman who is a size 16, I don't really like that I have to label myself as being plus size. Does a thin woman have to say she is a "minus size?" No. Why can't we just be women? Plain and simple. What does size really have to do with anything. Does it define our interests, careers, hobbies, sex life, fashion choices, etc.? Do you want to be assigned an adjective that says nothing about you other than you probably wear a size 14+? How does having that assignation affect you? How do you want to be referred to? Have you let your size define who you are what you are doing with your life? Why or why not? These are the burning questions I pose to you. Join the discussion and offer your thoughts on the subject.
oman who is a size 16, I don't really like that I have to label myself as being plus size. Does a thin woman have to say she is a "minus size?" No. Why can't we just be women? Plain and simple. What does size really have to do with anything. Does it define our interests, careers, hobbies, sex life, fashion choices, etc.? Do you want to be assigned an adjective that says nothing about you other than you probably wear a size 14+? How does having that assignation affect you? How do you want to be referred to? Have you let your size define who you are what you are doing with your life? Why or why not? These are the burning questions I pose to you. Join the discussion and offer your thoughts on the subject.
by industry standards it means im just fat
ReplyDeleteby fashion it means shopping in womens and paying a bit extra
and by me it means loving every inch of my body bc its who i am!
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Love, love, love the blog. I was at the girls night and the conversation about what to call yourself when you are plus size (or not) was crzy funny, brutally honest and very poignant. Hotly debated were the terms "plus size", "curvy" and my personal favorite "fluffy" (nod to Mo'Nique).
ReplyDeleteInterestingly enough, there wasn't a consensus. Terms that worked for some, others found offensive and vice versa. To me it illustrated what a personal and societal battlefield our bodies have become. We don't even have a way to adequately describe ourselves, much less a way to appreciate ourselves.
On a personal level, it amazes me how much of my life force has been spent waging and have waged upon me war against my own image. Just like the problem is both personal and societal, so too (I think) is the solution. I think we have to encourage responsible media for women and we have to vow to love ourselves no matter what. Enough with the misogny; self-directed hatred included. It's tired.
From personal experience though, I gotta say it's hard work. Seriously hard, hard work to look in the mirror and be content no matter what you weigh or how Mother Nature made your thighs.
Pia, that's why I appreciate so much what you are trying to achieve with this blog. Thank you for sharing your personal journey and giving all us "real" ladies a forum to say what's on our mind. Please keep writing.
Abbracci.
Love, love, love the blog. I was at the girls night and the conversation about what to call yourself when you are plus size (or not) was crazy funny, brutally honest and very poignant. Hotly debated were the terms "plus size", "curvy" and my personal favorite "fluffy" (nod to Mo'Nique).
ReplyDeleteInterestingly enough, there wasn't a consensus. Terms that worked for some, others found offensive and vice versa. To me it illustrated what a personal and societal battlefield our bodies have become. We don't even have a way to adequately describe ourselves, much less a way to appreciate ourselves.
On a personal level, it amazes me how much of my life force has been spent waging and have waged upon me war against my own image. Just like the problem is both personal and societal, so too (I think) is the solution. I think we have to encourage responsible media for women and we have to vow to love ourselves no matter what. Enough with the misogny; self-directed hatred included. It's tired.
From personal experience though, I gotta say it's hard work. Seriously hard, hard work to look in the mirror and be content no matter what you weigh or how Mother Nature made your thighs.
Pia, that's why I appreciate so much what you are trying to achieve with this blog. Thank you for sharing your personal journey and giving all us "real" ladies a forum to say what's on our mind. Please keep writing.
Abbracci.